You Are Not Weak
If you’ve ever felt like maybe you just don’t have it in you to be successful at the whole diet and exercise thing, this story is for you.
The Interview
The interviewer asks the tired question, hardly looking up from the application in his hands, “What are your strengths?”
You hem a little more than you haw, preparing to recite your answer. It’s not that you can’t remember what to say. It just doesn’t feel genuine.
You mentally set your script aside and answer from the heart.
“I don’t know how I make it through the day sometimes…
I start more things than I finish. I get distracted, frustrated, upset, I feel like I don’t even know what I’m doing half the time. I mess up. A lot. Sometimes pretty bad, but most of the time just little mistakes here and there.
What are my strengths?
Do you see me here right now? I got up this morning. I made an effort. I’ve learned that when I get something wrong I can try again tomorrow. But I can’t do it alone, and that’s probably my biggest strength — knowing I need help, just like everyone else.
I can accept my own failures. What I can’t accept is thinking less of myself for those failures.
And I will no longer take the blame for things that are beyond my control. I’ll be the first to step up and help make it right, but a faulty system, or a broken person, will not get better without change. So if you want to move forward with me, let’s get this straight right now: change is not easy, but sometimes it’s necessary. I’m ready if you are.”
The interviewer offers a lifeless handshake and an inaudible response as you walk out the door. The mindset you illustrated is uncommon and some people don’t get it.
It’s the type of mindset needed when you want a diet or exercise plan that works.
The Mindset
Don’t go it alone.
Needing help doesn’t make you weak.
Asking for help demonstrates your own strength, and you become even stronger by taking on the strength of your helper.
Don’t give up.
You’re not weak if you feel like giving up.
Everyone feels that way sometimes. I know I do.
But don’t discount any step forward you take, no matter how small — sometimes it’s just getting out of bed in the morning.
That’s strength.
Don’t think less of yourself when you mess up.
Mistakes, bad decisions, poor judgment, failures… they don’t define you.
Messing up makes you a normal human being, not a bad person.
Accepting that about yourself is discovering great strength.
Don’t blame yourself for a faulty system.
It’s not your fault you couldn’t stick to a diet or exercise program that was never going to work in the first place.
I’m tired of seeing people feel weak, or insufficient, or hopeless because they try so hard over and over, only to end up right back where they started.
There is a time to take responsibility for your actions, and there’s a time to recognize that the failure isn’t on your end, and what you need is a change. A new system.
If you’re ready for real change, click here to contact us and let’s start now.
We’re ready if you are.
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