Why is reaching a goal so hard?
Maybe you’ve tried 463 times and never made any progress. Or maybe you’ve always taken 1 step forward, only to fall 2 steps back.
In order to achieve your goal, you might have to change it.
What IS Your Goal?
You might think you want to lose weight, or ride your bike more, or eat healthier, etc. But what if that’s not what you really want? If you get to the reason behind the goal, you have a better chance of reaching it.
For example, the goal:
Lose weight = you need to fit in a wedding dress
Ride your bike more = you don’t want to feel tired all day
Eat healthier = you’re concerned about a history of heart disease in your family
It may seem like semantics, but it matters.
It has a direct impact on how you go about reaching your goals.
Wanting to look good for swimsuit season in a couple months will call for a totally different plan than wanting to build strength for a lifetime of not throwing your back out again. And you might not achieve either if your goal is just “getting in shape.”
When you come up with a goal, ask yourself why you really want to do it.
Then ask again.
After Determining Your Real Goal
You need a solution specific to your problem.
Let’s say you realize your goal is to have more energy for your kids after work. Don’t start training for a 5k. Don’t break out your old dumbbells and start doing bicep curls.
Running makes you better at running. Bicep curls give you bigger biceps. Neither one is directly addressing your problem.
The reason you don’t have energy could be as simple as…”I eat too much crap.”
That’s not an easy thing to change, but it is a simple problem to address.
Eat less crap.
Start with one less soda, or beer, or caramel macchiato each day.
If you aren’t addressing the real problem, you won’t reach your goal.
Heck, you may find you just need an extra hour of sleep at night. If you had set your goal to “losing those last 5 pounds,” you might never solve the problem of feeling drained at the end of the day.
I realize what I’m asking isn’t easy. But it’s worth the extra effort to figure it out, because adding some random exercise or doing some random diet isn’t helping you reach your goals. All you’re doing is frustrating yourself by working hard and not seeing any changes.
You need something specific to you.
Studies have shown even fitness professionals reach their goals better when they have someone helping them. Yet we’re often the first to try to accomplish our goals on our own.
Don’t be like us. Ask for help.
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